Comparison or Self Believe

Eventually how much you try to be perfect or try to give your best in everything, you still have to hear some golden words " kahi usko dekh "

After a lot thinking Process, Arguments and Rona-dhona, I have eaten an humble pie towards parents and those Chaar log kya kahenge vaale " Chaar log "

Comparison started at such an early age .. Such as

-Uska first rank aaya, beta aap kab third rank   se upar aaoge?
-Usko dekho vo pure din padhti hai,
-Kabhi tu bhi koi kaam ache se kar liya kar,
-Sharma ji ki beti toh gol gol rotiyaan banati hai,
-Jab Teri Umar ki thi tab tak toh mene pura          ghar sambhal liya tha or yaha toh tu khud ko sambhal le toh badi baat,
-Teri best friend se kuch sikh,
-Apne samne vaale Vikas ko dekha, all rounder hai or abhi scholarship bhi mili usey,

Comparison yaha tak toh thik the but these days comparisons are like..
-Vo itni patli hai or tu. thoda kam khaya kar
-Aarti ko dekha, complexion Kitta fair ho Gaya n face Kitta clean hai na uska.. apna dhyaan rakhti hai abb har koi tumhare jaisa toh ho nae sakta
-usne pure time apna phone dekha tak nae or tu pure time phone par laga hua tha

Above listed Statements hold an important part in our day to day life.. don't you dare to react on them. Lol
Jokes apart guyz
Have you ever heard someone saying, koi na beta vo usme kuch aaya toh tum isme or else vo us field me acha hai toh tum is field me..

My point here is that how can you compare two different individuals!!!
Things can be compared but two different personalities.. how??
People are different n so are their perceptions, choices, actions and most important their Nature.
I know parents always want their kids to be good in everything and in every way but these direct and indirect comparisons will not motivate us rather their support and guidance can.

I believe in
" YOU ARE WHAT I'AM NOT "
&
I believe in
" MYSELF "

Confidence

Try to be a little Extraordinary, be the Limelight of Your own World, be out of your Comfort Zone, Aim high & Reach for the Rays..

Let your Eyes Sparkle with Glee and Pride😎

Sense Your Presence in Crowd

Don't just Stand but try to...

            " STAND OUT "

Overthinking

What are you afraid of?

Relatives, family, Friends, Emotional breakdowns, heartbreaks etc etc

Frankly

I'm Afraid of " OVERTHINKING "

Coz it kills you from inside, ruin all your beautiful relations and all those magical moments.

In the Past couple of years I have learned that holding on something will eventually hurt me, I can't go back and change the things I have done. What happened happened

I mean I was hurt for a long time but at the end what!!

Of course I got over it

I do Overthink, focus on the things which are not worth thinking, that thinking brings unnecessary tension, tension leads to severe headaches, headaches to food strikes & so on

I know being surrounded with people makes a difference..You do have to take care of their emotions and feelings, maintain a bond, bring that inner satisfaction from both the sides

But what if it's not working??

If it makes you think negative about your own?

Leave it

Usne muje aisa kyu bola, mene vo bola toh usko kaisa lagega, log kya kahenge, ye kar liya toh meri kya image ban jayegi, hamara friendship toh affect nae hoga, usne mujse baat nahi ki toh ..and a lot more overthinking 

One thing you should know that you can not control people mind & can not redirect it

And If u really focus on

" char log kya kahenge "

You should also focus on

" logo ka kaam toh hai kehna "

Diwali & Rangoli

Isn't it great when u put your creativity on floor adding a lot of colours, sparkles, grace, love & most important your effort.. that's what Diwali brings..

Put on your thinking caps, play with lights, decorate with colours and enjoy the heat of moment..

Lots n lots of Diya's, lights, crackers, sweets, Indian attire, family, togetherness and a great reason to smile..

Happy Diwali to all my Readers..I love u all and I'll be adding a lot more interesting topics in near future

Let me showcase my Diwali thrill & excitement 😍😍

Journey of SADNESS To HAPPINESS

" Sadness I'll show you the Way back Home "

S - Silently
A - Avoid
D - Dark
N - Night
E - Easily
S - See
S - Sunshine
Isn't it a great description for the most gloomy word of our life " SADNESS "
It's not the out of world thing, rather it's a part of our life. Happiness, prosperity, excitement, amusement are heartily accepted and to deal with..than why not Sadness!!!
Let me tell you one thing, you don't have to put on the " brave " mask every time..
You are allowed to shed tears, to express your unhappiness & disappointments, to talk about the things that put you off colour, to make yourself easy by blurting out everything that makes you depress, to reveal your sorrows...
There's nothing wrong in it, after all it's an emotion.
My self love blog has one thing that being Alone is good .. so why not using " SADNESS " as a task in your Alone time

Ask yourself these Questions
⁃ Do you deserve this Situation/Phase?
⁃ Are you overthinking?
⁃ Is this what you wanted for yourself?
⁃ Being like this will solve anything??
⁃ Are you missing something b'coz of your unhappiness??
⁃ What people say or do is more important than what you feel for yourself??

Ask yourself these questions and I know you can definitely deal with your Sadness.

Stop walking on eggshells, you can't make a perfect life and can not make everyone happy and always remember one thing ... every experience, no matter how bad it seems deal it with a Smile because 👇🏻

🙂 Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining 🙂

Line Art

Just playing with lines.. the very first attempt and happy to c that it came out so good ...

wat u feel guyz?

MAA.. Tujse he sab Khushiyan 🤗

Chote se bada kiya aapne.. Na jaane kya kya dukh seh k

Apne muh ka nivala bhi phele muje khilaya, khud sone se phele muje sulaya, har vaada bina sikan k nibhaya, muje chota bol kar koi bhi kaam mujse na karvaya, chahe din ho ya raat " Mein thak gayi hu " ye kabhi na aapke muh par aaya, aadhi raat ko bhi jisko mene nind se jagaya, mere kahi lag jaane par aansu aapki aankho me aaya, muje koi chez pasand aayi or agar kam hui vo chez toh kaha " beta tu kha muje toh ye bilkul bhi na bhaya "

Kuch bhi or Kahi bhi ho jaane par sirf maa chilaya...

Maa ye kar do, mummy vo kar do, mummy ye kaha hai, mummy vo kaha hai..

Kyu muje aisa banaya k meri har baat me sirf Aapka Naam aaya.....

Kyu muje aapke bina ek din bhi rhna na sikhaya,

Thodi door kya chale Gaye aap, ek pal me he mann bhar aaya....

Saara Pyaar muj par barsaya or

Badle mein kya chayie ye bhi na bataya 🤗

It's a Special dedication to my mother and to all those mothers who feel their world revolves around their children's ❤️

CHILDHOOD.. Let's cross our roads one more time😇

Cheers to the age where Shaktiman was our only superhero, where Ludo & Carrom was today's subway surf and candy crush, where watching Saka Laka boom boom & Son Pari was as thrilling as today's game of thrones,
Where Oswald, Richie rich, Tom & jerry, Noddy were our daily soaps😍
where every child desire was to get the Magic Pencil which Sanju Had..
Where kitchen set and dolls were d most important toys we had, where making Parle-G biscuits cake was the sweetest dish..
Where Ice and water..chain.. hide n seek etc etc were the favourite past-time, where the 50 Paisa candy was the great delight, where dabba party in school, that fight for the window seat in rickshaw, where Birthday celebration in school and giving that extra candy to your best friend was special feeling 😃😃😃
Where waiting for your cousins in summer holidays, taking mom ka dupatta & arranging that fashion show, making tents with all the available sheets n pillows, dark room nights, on terrace horror scenes, where bathtub was our huge swimming pool, where sneaking in other's room n looking for chocolates was the best spy game, where collecting money from all the family members & planning for the party was our only feat, where adding one rupee coin to our piggy bank was so joyful..
The Time and all that moments were so precious that still bring a huge smile to our face 😄😃😃

No Cameras, No Photos
But we all have a picture in our mind for each and every memory..
I wish to have a Time Machine & to go back to that age and live all those moments again ..
Why do we grow up??
Can't we be little kids with no worries, no problems, no dilemmas....

Give me Some Candies & Toys,
Give me an Empty Lane,
Give me a Time Machine,
I Wanna live that Age Again😞

Learn to say NO

Always keeping a stiff upper lip yet saying Yes for everything you don't even wanna opt..
Yes .. this is wat I do.. this is wat happening from ages to the ppl who think that they will hurt other's sentiments just coz of this tiny word " NO "
Do u feel that hesitation while saying No to anyone??
I don't know about any other phobia but I do have a scary feeling attached to word NO
Like srsly..
Yar No bol diya isko kya lagega?!
Shitt muje ye nae karna but no kaise bolu isko!
No bola n isne muje selfish consider kar liya toh!!
No bola n ye chale Gaya Meri life se toh!!
Maa papa ye muje nae krna but me aapko no bhi nae bol sakti.....

Life actually seems very difficult with this word NO..Since this is d case let's just talk about it.

So thinking every time about others is not life.. wen we leave our comfort zone is the time wen we actually grow..Rome was not built in a day..
Turning this thing to positivity dt too with flying colours definitely be taking a lot of time..

There are other ways to say no but that's not the solution.. Right !!!
We can think about Making tons of excuses, over explanation, Procrastinating, lots of lie but we can not Decline or Say no 😐
You might feel guilty or people might feel angry.. but Saying No will sets you free

Say NO to things you hate doing,
Drop d habit of Saying Yes to Everything..

Freedom is More important than any other emotions.

Say NO before it's too Late,
People!!!! Please, Stop Blaming your Fate 🙂

Paper Drawing To Paper Carving

Creativity always puts me in better mood..every second I invest in my art n creativity I get little  discoveries of my own n one day I will convert dt little to Massive😍

Paper Drawing converted to Paper Carving

First Day On Job

First Day on the Job

So a night before my first day of job.. I was thinking about my Attire.. dt whether I should present myself a Fashionista or a Cool Girl.. whether lipstick on is good or not..whether looks matter or ur attire.. we all Girls think about this 🤣
Well if I talk about me..I have been to lots of such " First Day " .. hahah😜
Being punctual on first day is actually very necessary..else ur boss will teach u how to b punctual..
on d very first day of my job.. I was so reserved and shy which is exact opposite of my nature..
I reached the work place.. and when I was about to enter d premise.. I thought " Kiya Sahi me andar jaana hai.. chal jaane de ghar chalte hai " 😂
I took a little sling bag which included my pen, handkerchief, lip balm, charger and some candies.. i skipped my lunch just coz I thought it's gonna b embarrassing.. but girls just never forget to carry ur lunch if your timing is 10 to 7..
Else the whole staff will be doing lunch n offering u at the same time n U'll be like " Nae mera aaj upvaas hai " 😅🤣 ( I said those words )
If you are hired for a Senior Designation.. well and good but if you are hired for a junior designation.. bhai ye toh aisa hoga k.. ek Jalebi dus logo me bantegi 😆😉🙃 hahahah

Well apart from all this.. I have worked in companies where I was always treated like a family member.. got a lot of opportunities, love, affection, experiences, and lots of new relations..❤️

Straightforward

Straightforward
I used to b very Meek when it was about my elders or family members.. never tried to be upfront just coz I thought I will hurt their Sentiments...
Never tried to Argue, Never put my heart out, Never Said no for the things I dislike, Never reversed their wrong statements for me, there was always an apology even when I was right ..
So wat exactly I did?
I tried to make them happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Or
I put my Morale down !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes I wonder..why we hesitate a lot saying the things which are right ..
Yes it's because we Respect Other's Emotions, We care about their feelings, We have fear of loosing them, we get scared just with the thought of not having them in life.. but
What about our own???
You have your own choices, your own outlook, Preferences, views, ideas, methods, perceptions etc etc.. Just keep one thing in mind... Its your life and only you have the right to live it in your own way.. no1 can rule upon u.

Being Straightforward doesn't mean being rude or disrespecting others, it simply means that you are not masquerading, you are being YOU..
You have the Courage and Strength to accept what is wrong or what not..

If I share my personal experience, I have lost a lot of people, miss a lot of beautiful relationships which has been affected by being Straightforward.. but that's the life Right!!
If you don't have freedom to speak or to speak what you feel..then wats the point to be with the person or to hold onto that relationship..

At the end
Be Straightforward but then Be Polite too 🙂

Expectations.. A drug

Expectations.. A drug
            Not just hurt but It Kills You everyday

I'm a girl who had bunch of friends and was a very pampered one..n due to this ..had a lot of
Expectations and more expectations from family, close ones and from other people too..

Why she did this to me?
He should have said that ..
It is my birthday, my family has to plan something great for me...
She is my best friend, she should b my side..
He/she is going to text/call me first..
Finally I have changed my profile picture.. its been long now.. just so eager to see all d compliments..
He will definitely help me out..
Blah blah blahhhhhh
Don't you just live with all these things on daily basis, A scenario where you expect and get hurt at the end ..

U know this EXPECTATIONS thing.. It's an Addiction.. u get used to it n wen u don't get it.. u end up disappointing urself as well as others...so let situation happen rather then how u want it to be🙂

In today's era.. it's all about give and take whether u accept this fact or not..
If u'r doing something for someone u'll automatically expect them to do something for u too.. Expectations is a drug, u'll have it but excess dose of it,will harm u badly.
When I Expect and I realise that it can not be fulfilled.. it leads to a headache n dt headache drill a hole in my mind where anger fills up n it's so exhausting to feel that pain all the time.
If I'll say that Stop Your Expectations, it will definitely be a Metaphor 🙄coz u can not stop it all u can do is .. to lessen them🙂

Do things for ppl but without expectations.
If the feelings are mutual the efforts will be equal🙂
Do share what u expect from your close ones coz u'll keep it inside n the relation will suffer.
Saying what you feel is the solution itself for any problem 😊

ALONE no it's My SELF LOVE ❤️

I'm not Alone it's my Self-love and Cultivation

So are you feeling alone??
Or texting your best friend that you're feeling left out or no1 is around you??
I do feel dt.. in fact a lot of times when I feel everything is falling apart, my world twisted up, wen I squabble with my closes ones etc etc...
So basically.. You are not ALONE
It's actually a time for you to think about your own.. It's d time for Self Love and Self Cultivation 😃
Me n my muse we are actually best friends..when I feel alone.. I sit in my balcony n wonder about a lot of things, I get a lot of brainwaves, I think about my deeds.. good one as well as bad ones, I sometimes get too much spark n sometimes get too obnoxious, I think about my health,Complexion,weight,hair n almost everything about my body🤣
I know u'll find it funny but it's not funny at all
Coz Love Yourself First 😎 n of course health is wealth.
Being Alone is not that bad..think about the things you need to improve, the things which you have to quit, things you are good at or the things which you have to learn from others..
Future is uncertain, we all know that but doesn't mean we shouldn't plan for it.. right!!
So get alone for sometime n think what u have to do in future..the path on which you have to move on...
So next time when u say that you're feeling Alone.. think again
N say .. You are giving time to ur own😘
U know just spend 5 minutes of your day being alone, no phone, no friends, no family
Just YOU & Your Self-Love
Trust me u'll find this activity very helpful for your own nature as well as for others 🙂☺️
I do it everyday... After all I'll be loved by others if I love Myself first 😘

Colours are fun to play with

U have always been my Favourite Gannu ji n I tried my 200% to dress u up..

Colours are definitely my thing to play..

I made dis keeping just one thought in mind n that is

" it's me who can create a another version of u Bappa "

Ganpati Bappa Moriya  😃

How's my attempt guyz?

Do give ur opinion in the comment section 

N well comments n compliments.. both are welcome wholeheartedly ☺️😃😋

Smile .. It's absolutely free 😃

So how u feel getting a compliment for ur SMILE? Or wen people say that your smile can cheer or light them up anytime...
Don't u just feel out of the world wid that Colgate worthy smile, tomato cheeks n a proud feeling that ur smile can indeed change someone's mood 😃😃😃
Smile is the best Medicine.. I know u have heard it a lot of times so nothing new about it.. but r u taking this medicine on daily basis ??!!!
Smile n u dun have to give any account for that, no explanation needed, no cost to be paid then why not to use it as much as we can .. right !!

Life is not perfect..sometimes gloomy waves,
Dumbfound situations, a lot bummers, devastating modes, snapping experiences, outbreaks etc etc.. but at the end wat!!!! It's life n it definitely gonna include all of this but u know wat..
U don't need to muster up enough courage to smile... coz it's d easiest thing to do 😋

I SMILE wen I wake up n just rush to see the beautiful mrng, I smile when birds start their chirping, I smile wen I enjoy d aroma of coffee, I smile wen my sisters wish me mrng wid their lazy movements, I smile wen ppl take out their precious time just to text me a beautiful mrng, I smile while dancing, I smile wen I see kids playing around, I smile wen I see a squad of senior citizens ... I smile all the time coz it doesn't require a proper Reason..
What makes u smile?

Smile and feel a different Universe inside not giving a care to the world coz the things we run away are the things that always keep coming to bite us.
Smile n feel positive.. Smile n keep spreading it.. coz SMILING SOULS ARE PERFECT 😇😃

Did u got that Smile while reading it?

My Treasure

Lost a Part of Treasure

Have u ever just feel like sitting alone nd to rewind d CD of your life !!!!!
It's d best thing to do in leisure nd I'm doing it right now.. so I got stuck on d word TREASURE.
Well my treasure.. umm it doesn't include money, materials, ornaments but it includes my Family & Friends 😇
I'm really good at hiding my feelings with flippancy but my friends they anyhow get to know about my mood swings.. u know a friendship of more then 3-4 years seems like now that particular person is ur addiction, a part of family n ur permanent mate😘
This friendship n I mean all d relationships these days are so soft to handle like a  Porcelain doll, One mistake can lead to multiple cracks..
I'm not perfect n I don't even want to be..I did a lot of mistakes in past, I learned from them but mistakes are a part of life I guess.. so that learning process is relentless 😜
I lost a Part of my treasure that is 2-3 friends who were so close to me..I really can not figure out why we parted our ways..
Miscommunications can be solved
Confusions can be flushed out
A lie can be detected but then what happened?
Actually it was a relation n u have to live your relation not just keep going with it😊
Ego, Attitude, Priorities can kill a sweet relation.
I'm in a constant battle with my heart that whether I should go to them.. Slap them hard .. but hug them too..n to say that " I Missed you n m doing " but everybody doesn't have d same heart ..right !!!
M not left with a bunch of people around but then whoever I have..I'm not letting them go anywhere 😃
I lost a Part of Treasure but I can't loose anymore..
Wat about ur treasure??

Her Dress or Mess

Her Dress .. well it has been emerged as a great topic to discuss in this era..
Yesterday wen I was passing through a crowded area n saw a cluster of male friends n of course as I was passing I overheard them saying " Is behanji ko kon Patayega "
Just coz d girl they were looking at was Wearing a Salwar Kameez..
So according to this I get to know dt a girl who wear salwar kameez can never be loved by a guy .. m I right !!!
I really don't understand that if a girl wear short clothes she'll b considered as a hot n sexy girl wch is in too demand these days but at the same time d same girl can be called as a " Slut "
Look at her Dress it's so short.. ye toh hogi spoiled...
Mann look at that girl.. the outdated clothes..who wear dis salwar kameez.. typical villagers...
Ladki pure kapde me ho toh bhi problem
Or chote kapde me ho toh bhi problem..
Kyu sirf Ladkiyon k saath he ye problem??????
Idk who has poisoned today's youth mind but it indeed making a lot difficult for girls to live their life in their own way..
As a Girl..I never consider length, color or d fabric of cloth while putting it on .. wat matters d most is COMFORT

Strong Girl

Everyday I wake up n I say to myself it's a happy day.. I start my day wid a huge smile
Everyday I wake up wid no regrets n worries..
M at a stage of life wer ppl taught me a lot lessons, bad ones good one n worse ones..
Some ppl r still here to heal my wounds n some just gave bandage n left.. d ppl who left gave me a lot strength, I felt like it's d time to stand up, rise high and fight for my pride 😎
Being strong is d most difficult thing a woman do.. but once u gain it..u'll rock darling 💪🏻
Just coz it's stormy now doesn't mean m not headed for sunshine👸I fall, I learn, I manage, I sacrifice, I forgive ..... I .. I ... u can't even count how n to what extent a woman can go..
D only thing I know is .. we were born as a princess, raised like a queen..  if u can't treat us as queens, let us do dis work too 😇
   " Proud to be born as a girl or should I say STRONG GIRL " 😎

SUICIDE OR PARENTS LIFE

One day she came to me and said

" I can't live without him " i knew that she wasn't serious..yet was afraid of her backwash..

Next day I found her being Crushed and Trolled in a newspaper.

Yes.. She Choosed SUICIDE 

Choosed to kill her self rather then Spending her whole life with all the love ones around.

She was more of a Private Person but yet came to me and described about her love. My eyes flew open that her love never included her Parents.. it was just " HE "

Now she is not with me..her Parents, they are living like a dead..

U know Even I wanted to tell her Something that " I loved Her So So Much "

I wanted to tell her that it wasn't all about the one she loved .. it was about her Parents that they loved her more 😊

MAA

Maa

Such a Tiny Word but still consist the whole world into it. The day when I opened my eyes n saw you for the first time☺️I dun really remember how u looked but all I can say is .. You were Smiling that lip to ear one 😃though u wer suffering from a lot of pain ..

I'm your obtuse bairn maa,who just want to learn more and more from you😘 

I know you hardly Maa.. because every second I get to know some or other hidden virtues of u..

A Small voice on the back of my Head always Ask me.. who is she to you n I go spellbound..

Coz u r my Dream, My Pride, My Strength and Courage, light to my eye, My Sunrise and Sunset, My Moon and My Stars, u r my feat, u r my whole Universe MAA

I love you will be an understatement coz I owe u maa for giving birth to me n to show me wer I can find my god 😘

DAD

I will never ask u, where are we going .. if u hold my hand
I will never cry, be it anything
.. if u hold my hand
I will try my level best to make everything possible
.. if u hold my hand
I will b the girl, d way u want me
.. if u hold my hand
I'll b more confident, strong & powerful
.. if u hold my hand
I just want u to hold my hand now, later & forever 😊😊

For me, My world revolves around my dad

You are my Superhero Dad❤️